For women who are doing everything right, but still feel empty.
“There has to be more to life than this,”
turn that quiet question into clear, embodied next steps.
Not by blowing up your life.
By coming back to the place you probably miss the most: your body.
Prefer writing first? Start here.
When success starts to feel flat
You built the culturally approved version of success, and feel oddly numb to the life you worked so hard to build. You can’t quite explain why, but you notice:
You’re functioning and handling things brilliantly, but something in you feels quietly switched off.
You’re competent in every room, but you’re rarely softened, playful, or truly moved.
You pick up everything, other people’s moods, expectations, what’s unsaid, and you cope by overriding your own needs and wants.
You keep doing, organising, producing, not because you love it, but because being respected is how you stay safe.
You sense there is more, but you don’t know how to live it without blowing up the life you’ve built.
It shows up in other ways too: On your way to work, you race past the park, trying not to notice the morning sun. Sitting by the sea, you don’t hear the waves because the chatter in your head takes over – again. And if someone were to ask you, everything is fine… but you know that on your deathbed, you’d regret not choosing a different life.
Nothing is wrong with you. You’ve adapted wonderfully to what life asked of you – and now you can learn a different way of being without dramatic moves.
If reading any of this stirs anger, sadness or discomfort – let it. That spark of awareness is often the first step toward living more fully.
There is more to life than this.
Many of us pour enormous effort into building a life, a career, a relationship, an identity, only to find it leaves us strangely empty.
But…
You didn’t end up here because you’re weak or broken.
You ended up here because being the good one worked.
For years it was rewarded to be reliable, kind, impressive, low-maintenance.
To carry more than your share.
To make it look easy.
And if you are naturally more attuned, you sense subtleties fast, process deeply, and feel a lot. So you learn strategies to stay functional, you tighten, speed up, override your needs, and live from the neck up. You stay safe by pleasing, achieving, and avoiding conflict.
And “pleasing” here isn’t about being sweet. It can look like being a badass, the strong one, taking on what others won’t, fixing what isn’t yours to fix, managing everyone else’s emotions, never asking for help, keeping everything running, while you slowly disappear from your own life.
In many ways this fuels your success.
And success brings respect.
And respect feels like safety.
But your life starts to feel more like a comfortable cardboard box, safe and small, than the vast blue sky where you could spread your wings and live with all your might.
Most people keep decorating the cardboard box.
You’ve read this far because some deeper part of you already knows: there is more to life than this.
Imagine ...
Waking up energized and enthusiastic about the day to come.
Doing work that doesn’t just pay the bills or gives you status, but feels like it’s genuinely worth your time and your life.
Being able to say “no” – to that party, or that person, or that obligation – simply because you’d rather read that book you’ve been looking forward to for five and a half years now.
And yes! Sitting in that park (or by the sea) and actually being there – hearing the waves roll the stones, noticing squirrels gathering chestnuts, watching the clouds change shape… and, for once, the chatter in your head leaves you alone. And no matter the fear, doubts and the little jokes people might make about your choices – you feel a quiet excitement about the life you’re choosing to build.
Making this a reality is not about blowing up your current life. It starts much smaller (and braver) than that: little by little, you teach your nervous system that it’s safe to be with yourself, not just for everyone else.
The Embodied Realignment
Stop trying to change from your head. Let’s invite the whole you into the process.
The result? More clarity, steadier boundaries, and choices that feel aligned.
Method
Here’s how we do it:
A place to pause
We slow down so you can actually notice where you are and what you need.
We create a space where you don’t have to “be okay” – you get to come as you are.
Your body as a compass
Instead of blindly following your old habits, you start to feel more clearly what the next little aligned step is – and learn at your own pace that it’s ok to take that step!
Embodied steps
We work with small, doable steps – often, noticeable change comes from just 5–10 minutes of embodied practice a day.
You are not the first to doubt this claim – and you will definitely not be the first this pragmatic process will help.
Real-life integration
Insights are great, but I’m more of a real-life change fan. By working with me, you commit to bringing the practices into your relationships, work, parenting and everyday decisions – and witness your old habits transforming into something that truly supports you.
These aren’t “tips.” They’re conditions that retrain your nervous system and shift what feels possible day to day.
Over time, they build four core capacities — the ones that make real change sustainable in work, relationships, and parenting.
Four key skills
Embodied coaching is alignment from the inside out. We cultivate:
Clarity
“If people really knew what they wanted, they would probably already have it.”
— Mark Walsh
What do I even want?
This is a question only a small number of people can truly answer. Conditioning from our caregivers, society and other people’s expectations often pulls us away from our own desires – and even from our most basic needs.
As we start coming back to ourselves, it becomes clearer what is truly ours – for us, from us. From this clarity we can make decisions that really nourish us and, at the same time, allow our gifts to nourish others.
Boundaries
Your “yes” is only as strong as your “no”.
Once we know more clearly what kind of life we want, every moment becomes an opportunity to take a step in that direction. The ability to set a boundary – with another or with ourselves – is essential here.
A boundary is not punishment or selfishness, but the condition for conscious choice: what kind of relationship we want to have with ourselves and others, and where we choose to invest our time and energy.
As our “no” becomes clearer and more embodied, our “yes” can once again lead us into loving aliveness.
Nervous system regulation
When we start choosing our “yes” and “no” more clearly people react to our new boundaries and choices. These reactions are not always pleasant and can trigger fear, tension, shame or guilt in us. Especially if you take in a lot from your surroundings and sense things deeply, your nervous system can become overwhelmed very quickly – even if on the outside you seem strong, composed and “in control”.
With nervous system regulation practices, we learn to stay in touch with the body even when life puts us under pressure. We recognize the signs of overwhelm and gently guide our energy back into a sense of safety, so that we can stay committed to our vision for life instead of slipping back into old patterns that no longer serve us.
Equanimity - being with discomfort
The nature of life is waves: ups and downs, closeness and loss, health and illness. We can’t avoid this, but we can change how we experience those waves.
Equanimity is the capacity to remain inwardly calm even when life squeezes us. Instead of getting lost in the drama of our thoughts and emotions, we practice a quiet presence with what is – with the pleasant and the unpleasant, without push or pull. We’re not looking for the total absence of fear, shame or guilt, but for a way to live with them without letting them pull us off our path.
The goal isn’t a perfect life, a perfect action.
It’s a nervous system that can stay with reality — and a body you can trust to guide you back into alignment – even when you mess up.
Want to explore this together?
IF YOU SENSE THIS MIGHT BE ABOUT YOU …
Let’s meet for a 30-minute free discovery call.
You don’t have to prepare for it – come as you are, and let’s discover together where you are right now, where you would like to get to, and whether working with me is the right step for you at this time.
Prefer to start by writing a few lines?
Write me about where you are now and where that quiet pull is asking you to go.
I came to Anja overwhelmed by stress and confusion, and left with more clarity, calm and honesty in my relationships.
J.S., USA, film creator
With Anja’s support I regained confidence, trust in myself and the sense that I am loved – and I finally feel alive here and now again.
A.G., Slovenia, biologist
With Anja’s help I found what was truly holding me back, and today I’m walking towards my dreams with more courage.
J.K., Slovenia, professor
Why I understand this place so well...
Hi.
I’m Anja, a theoretical physicist who left academic career; a Shaolin disciple and chan (zen) meditator trained to endure pain and pressure – even when it wasn’t leading in the right direction. I’m a mother of three who was messing up parenting, because I ignored my embodied wisdom and read parenting books instead. I’m a woman who has gone through emptiness, toxic people-pleasing, perfectionism and burnout. All of these have been teachers on the way to a final decision: my life is going to be different!
Today I live more calmly and more in touch with what truly supports me. From this place – and only from this place – can I truly love each moment of my life, other people, and even myself. That doesn’t mean everything is perfect; but it means I know the path out of that place where what you’re living – and what you don’t allow yourself to live – leaves you empty.
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